Let me apologise in advance that this article will be filled with stories about my boyfriend and how I knew he was the one for me.
And I mean, why not? We are talking about thoughtful acts guys do only when they are in love, after all. So, where better to draw inspiration from than my personal life?
Because of him, I have first-hand experience about what a guy does when he is in love with a woman, so I might as well write about it.
Pardon me if it looks like I am flaunting him; I just want this to be as real as possible.
That said, there are certain things a guy will do to show that he likes a woman even when they are still friends.
So, if you are speaking with a guy or have a friend you wouldn’t mind taking it to the other level with and wondering what he feels about you, follow along for how to know if he is in love with you.
15 Thoughtful Acts Guys Do Only When They Are In Love
Although this list is not exhaustive, read on for how to know if a man loves you.
1. He will ask for and consider your advice
When a man is in love with a woman, he will value her advice and ask her for it. And that’s because even before they get together, he sees her as an extension of him.
While he might not come out straight to make it look like they are in a relationship, if they aren’t, you will see that he will constantly ask you what you think about things.
That was one of the ways I knew my boyfriend was in love with me – how he would call me to ask me a question about a decision to make.
Of course, we were friends then, so it seemed like he was asking for advice from a friend.
But he was asking my opinion on things I didn’t need to have an input on as a friend; that was one of the ways I suspected he had feelings for me.
And I was right.
2. He will include you in his life
Another way to know a guy is in love with you is that he includes you in his life. He will constantly use the “we” term if you are in a relationship, so you can see that you are a team.
And if you are not, although more subtly, you will see that he includes you in his life.
I remember my friend once saying that she was looking for a man who puts her in the picture in everything he does.
And she got that – married to a man that adores her now.
Before her statement, I didn’t think much about it, but after that, I saw how true it was.
If a man doesn’t include you in his life, it is because he can’t see you in it. If he does, he will mention it – subtly or not.
3. He will show genuine interest in your life
When a man loves a woman, he will show genuine interest in her life. He will often ask her questions about her life because he wants to know what makes her tick.
He will also want to know her dreams and aspirations.
I remember how my boyfriend used to ask me so many questions then, even down to questions about raising kids.
At first, I just thought it was just his way of making conversation, but I soon learned he wanted to know my views on many things.
But besides that, he asked me questions about my career and goals. And the best part was that he was there to remind me and push me when I wanted to give up.
4. He loves your quirks
If you are asking, “How do you know he is in love with you?” one way to know is a man who loves your quirks.
You know those random – and even weird – sides of you that you are sometimes ashamed of? He will love them all.
I tend to chuckle when I am nervous and laugh in the most awkward situations. And although I hate that I can’t help it, my man finds it adorable.
How do I know? He told me, and that made me feel a little less self-conscious about it.
So when a man loves you, he will love those little things you do that others may have complained about.
5. He will support your dreams
Like I said earlier, one of the signs he is in love with you is that he will show interest in you. But he is not asking you questions just to ask them.
No, he wants to see you grow and get better.
A man who cares about you won’t take a backseat to your progress, he will be right there at the courtside seat cheering you on until you achieve all your dreams.
In fact, he will likely believe in you more than you do yourself and push you until you reach your goals.
6. He flaunts you
If you have closed your ears to everything I have said since, I need you to believe this: a man who loves you will never keep you a secret.
If a man loves you, trust me when I say he will shout it on the rooftops if he can.
Now, don’t misunderstand: I am not saying he will post you on social media; he might not if he prefers to keep things private or if he is not social media savvy.
However, best believe he will not keep you hidden offline. He will introduce you to his friends – if not his family yet if his culture frowns at it.
Some cultures don’t bring the family into the picture until after the proposal.
But even at that, his siblings might even have met you.
And he will introduce you as his girl, woman or girlfriend when he has the chance; he won’t call you his friend.
If a man starts downplaying what you mean to him when introducing you, believe him – that’s what you mean to him.
Also Read: The Differences Between a Private and Secret Relationship
7. He will want to meet your friends and family
A man who loves you will not just introduce you to the people in his life, he will also want to meet your friends and family.
He will not be comfortable staying hidden.
It is often men who have things to hide or are stringing you along who want to stay hidden.
When they have the best intentions for you, they are not afraid to be known.
Plus, men are territorial; they want to be known as the man in your life.
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8. He remembers small details
I find it cute when my boyfriend mentions something about me that I told him in passing. For instance, I may say something random about liking a kind of movie.
Then, when we have another discussion around that topic, he may say something like, “and since you like this kind of movies, you probably chose it…”
We had so many cases of this even before we became official that always left me shocked, like, “How did you know that?”
“Well, you mentioned it,” he’d say.
The fact that he always remembers gets me.
So, basically what I’m saying is that one of the thoughtful things a guy does when he is in love is to remember the smallest details about you.
9. He enjoys spending time with you
Can someone say they love you if they don’t enjoy being in your presence?
A man who is repulsed by your presence obviously doesn’t love you.
If he does, he will go far and beyond to make sure to spend some time in your presence.
10. You are the first person he tells his good news to
Before my boyfriend and I became official, when something happened, I always found myself picking up the phone to tell him.
Many times, I stopped myself because, like I said, we weren’t official and I didn’t want to come off too strong.
However, if you are asking, “What does a man do when he is truly in love?” One thing he does is to make sure you are the first – or at least one of the first – he tells his good news.
11. He will show up when you need him
If a guy is flaky, you don’t need a seer to let you know how he feels about you. No man who loves you will ghost you when you need him.
One action men show when they love you is that they are always available when you need them.
Of course, they may not be able to solve all your problems; they are not God. But they will be there for you – even if it is just being present, so you know you can lean on them.
Most of the time, if you are questioning if a guy cares about you when you need him, he doesn’t.
If he does, there will be no question.
12. He is vulnerable with you
One of the thoughtful acts guys do when they are in love is to be vulnerable with the woman.
Remember that men don’t often feel like they are permitted to be vulnerable. In fact, many of them glory in their ability to carry the world on their shoulders.
But once they start having feelings for a woman – maybe not at the beginning – but little by little, they will start loosening up.
Firstly, they may start acting silly around you, then they will gradually act soft.
Of course, if you want it to continue, you must make sure not to make them feel self-conscious about it.
Don’t make a big deal about it or act like they are weird; accept it as every normal day, and be there for them if they need you to.
One of my best responses when someone is vulnerable with me is to ask them what they need me to be at that moment.
I ask, “Do you want advice or do you just want to rant?” And then act based on their response.
Also Read: What Love Is Not
13. He prioritises you
If a guy likes you, he will prioritise you.
That doesn’t mean nothing else will matter in his life – that would be an unreasonable request.
However, you will see and know that you mean a lot to him, and he can sacrifice some things to be with you.
Please don’t misunderstand that I mean he will always put things aside for you.
He still has to work, be with friends and family and get involved in other personal things. However, you will still never doubt that you are up there in his priority.
14. You catch him staring at you
This is another cute thing guys do when they love you.
Sometimes, you will look his way and catch him looking at you with so much love in his eyes.
I can’t explain this beyond that it happens, because I am not a man. But if it happens to you, you will understand how amazing it is.
15. He does the small things
Last but not least, when a guy loves you, he does those small things that may not matter so much but still matter.
You know those small things like getting you a period care package, sending you lunch because you’ve not eaten, refilling your supplements or getting you flowers just because – if you like them.
He will do all those small things that make your life easier and just make you smile, because seeing you happy makes him happy.
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