Any relationship built on lies cannot stand. But beyond that, no one wants to be at the receiving end of deception in their relationship, especially not when they are honest.
A dishonest person is the worst person to be in a relationship with because they make having trust in them and the relationship difficult.
But that’s even when you can recognise their dishonesty, what if you can’t? In this case, what you don’t know can kill you; it is important to identify if your partner is dishonest with you.
How do you identify a dishonest partner? What are the signs your partner is dishonest with you?
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They Are Inconsistent
Your partner is most likely dishonest with you when they are inconsistent. Dishonest people are neither here nor there; they are here today and there tomorrow.
When you cannot understand your partner (not from lack of trying), when you cannot say basic things about them even after being with them for a while because their story and life is inconsistent, they are likely dishonest.
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Their Stories Don’t Add Up
Stories might not add up once in a while because of misunderstanding. You should ask them about it and not immediately accuse them, especially if this is the case.
However, if it is happening repeatedly, then it is something to be worried about.
If they tell you something and the story changes the next day or circumstances don’t seem to follow what they are saying, they are likely dishonest with you.
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They Are Evasive
There is probably no clearer proof that your partner is lying to you than when they are evasive. Dishonest people are usually vague and defensive when they are being questioned.
Sometimes, they might gaslight and turn it on you because they are trying to draw the attention away from them. You should be worried if your partner is refusing to give you straight answers.
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Your Guts Say They Are Lying
Sometimes, all you need to know that your partner is dishonest with you is because your intuition is raising the red flag alarm.
Don’t underestimate the power of your intuition to lead you. Now, if you are insecure, it could be your insecurity speaking.
But if you are sure you are secure in your relationship, and you develop a sudden gut feeling that you are being lied to, it is worth investigating.
Don’t accuse them but don’t ignore it either; investigate it.
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They Accuse You Of Lying
Liars always assume that others are lying; it is almost funny but people who do certain things assume others are doing the same.
If your partner is constantly accusing you of lying without just cause, they are likely just projecting.
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Their Body Language Is Off
A partner who usually leans towards you and maintains eye contact when talking to you and suddenly stops this is probably lying to you.
Usually, when people are lying, they find it difficult to maintain eye contact and they could also be acting nervous because of the fear of being caught.
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Something Is Off About Them
Another indication your partner might be dishonest with you is if something is off about them. If their behaviour just doesn’t add up.
If they are acting strange or distant, you might want to find out if they are lying.
Conclusion
I will like to state that it is important to first investigate without throwing accusations because all these could also be an indication of other underlying issues that has nothing to do with dishonesty.
But whatever the case, seeing any of these signs in your relationship means something is up and you should definitely work on it.
13/09/2023 at 9:51 AM
Hi Misty garcia
The world is full of dishonest people , only time heals , going through the same thing. Just hang in where you don’t belong before it get late , thanks
03/03/2024 at 9:51 PM
Thank you for your comment, this helps.
16/10/2021 at 10:02 PM
I’m so sad because I have a partner and that’s very Unfaithful and everything he does is lie and believe their own lies and then blames everything on me and he told me
18/10/2021 at 3:06 PM
Hi Misty, I am sorry you are going through that. Please, remember that you deserve better and do not have to stay where you are mistreated. Cheers.
08/03/2024 at 4:22 PM
I’m wondering the same thing Kristen Moya! I’m 45 and my man is 50 and I recently stumbled across a second secret phone he was hiding from me for the past year. It was literally filled with every kind of digital infidelity out there, there was also proof of several physical infidelities as well. Even after I confronted him about everything and could prove all of it, would you believe me if I told you that he still denied it and continues to deny it? He actually told me that if I didn’t destroy his secret phone, he was going to take the internet router to work with him, knowing that without the internet, I can’t work bc I work from home. When I asked him why he would do something like that (referring to him taking the router so would be unable to work) his exact words were; “Because I know that if you see everything that’s on that phone, you’ll never be able to forgive me”. And then he made me take a hammer to what he thought was his second phone and told me to smash it with the hammer. What choice did I have? I did what any female in a similar situation would do… I distracted him and smashed one of my old phones that didn’t work anymore and told him it was his second phone lol. He can’t be mad since he’s the one who taught me how to be that way after all. The worst part is I’m stuck here and he knows it. Since my dad passed away, he knows I don’t have anyone or anywhere else to go so he can do whatever he wants, and treat me however he wants and there’s nothing I can do about it. I’ve got no choice but to stay and endure it unless I want to live in the ditch. We live in the middle of nowhere and he leaves me alone all the time and has stopped taking me anywhere with him. I want to leave but I have nowhere to go. Help is not coming for me…
29/11/2022 at 11:23 PM
Omg seriously are all guys like this…
I’m 48 and yet have I found one that is honest.. No I’m not looking for dishonest in our relationship but it’s there.. Eventually they get caught in there own lies
13/01/2023 at 2:35 PM
There are good guys out there, even though they may be rare. Don’t lose faith, believe that you can find a honest guy and open your heart to finding one.
16/06/2023 at 2:02 PM
Misty. Listen to me and listen carfully. Leave and leave now! The person you are with doesnt care about you. I am talking out of experience. It will be hard but dont fall for their tricks to keep you. Cut them off completely. Do what you need to to sever any ties completely! Save yourself dear. No one else can save you. Trust me you will thank yourself in the long run. You deserve so much better. Even if it means that you need to be alone and learn to love yourself frist. Do it and do it now! Take a bag and leave dont look back!
18/02/2024 at 8:36 PM
I totally agree! I am going through it as we speak, but I’m stuck because I don’t have money to move.
17/09/2021 at 11:56 PM
My ex partner did all of these things and we are no longer together because she said I was the one always lying to her. It was just her way of getting her revenge back. Well hurting me she sure did get her revenge back because I’m sitting in my rm so hurt. Forget her.
04/10/2021 at 8:55 AM
I am sorry you went through that. Hopefully, the next time you meet someone, you will experience love in its truest form. Cheers.
16/06/2023 at 2:07 PM
Nope Crystal. Dont be hurt. Pick yourself up girl you are a warrior. Put those big girl pants on because she didnt deserve your light anyway! Stop letting people steal your joy. If you allow other people to steal pieces of you what will be left in the end? Rather focus your energy and harness that hurt towards building on yourself and making yourself strong and even more beautiful. You go get the world girl because its out there you just need to go get it.
04/03/2024 at 6:24 PM
To every woman out there going through something to this magnitude, I’m sorry n feel ur pain. (IT’S NOT A GOOD THING TO GO THROUGH). WE most definitely need to really look at the relationship and out way the good n the bad. I don’t know about anyone of you, but this has done some permanent damage to me as a person. Letting go of someone you love so much is hard n I believe it’s a slow process. Plz know your worth more than what you have had to experience with that person.
25/02/2024 at 8:56 PM
So sad to hear that.. I know a lot of people who have been thru including me. Hopefully you are better now